You know what helps?

I'm sure this happens to us all, but after submitting our outland application for PR, there are some days where I'll have a flash of some extra piece of evidence I should have included.. or some piece of information I should of presented more clearly or perhaps omitted entirely. Throughout the rest of the day, these thoughts keep intruding, I feel my heart rate go up & then, because I've nothing much else to do, I sit here in a fog wondering what I can do to feel better.

My latest obsession is this: For a portion of the chat-logs I included, we were using Pidgin. These logs saved in such a way that I had to open each of the files individually thru internet explorer to make them print-able. Now, something about them has been nagging at me so I took a look at them this morning and it looks like a lot of long sentences get cut off because *for some reason* they are formatted to be very wide and the text stretches beyond the margins of the paper.

This is enough to make me obsess, so like I said, I've been looking for ways to satisfy my brain without being able to physically fix what I sent.

I decided to read what my husband wrote for his account of our relationship, which we included in the package. Reading through it was a comfort and made me realize that perhaps the things that were done right in our application, were done right enough to make a difference for the positive... We were in such a rush at the time to get the package out that I hadn't yet absorbed what he'd written and the way he put things was very, very sweet.

So I guess what I'm saying is that, out of all the things I've tried to take myself out of panic-mode, just re-reading some of the bits of evidence, if you have them, may be enough to soothe an otherwise insatiable need to know things might be all right despite a few perceived mistakes. The panics I get into sometimes can be downright paralyzing.

It's true - the important thing about all of this . . . bureaucrats aside . . . is our love for one another.  CIC may see lots of "fraud" relationships - but that doesn't mean that all of us are frauds and, if nothing else, being put through something like this when you are genuine only strengthens the relationship AND the determination to do whatever it takes to have a life together.  All the best to you - don't worry.

I like positive threads. They keep my spirits up! I've also been frazzled and worrying to the point where I don't get much else done, and it helps to sit back a minute and listen to my husband. He's been my voice of encouragement and comfort. He always tells me I'm fretting too much for no reason, and as much as I don't like to admit it, he's right. 

I agree, Megen.

Long distance couples can't get distracted by physical things around them when upset and disagreeing.

I think my husband and I are a more successful couple than some older ones who have been together longer. This is really all due to being long distance for so long. We learned to rely on communicating openly and honestly to resolve issues instead of cuddling and doing something to distract from the issue instead of resolving it.

Now we still communicate instead of just going out to have fun and be distracted when we have problems. It works wonders and we have better conflict resolution skills than any couple we know. :) I think the distance was a good thing for us in the end, though it sucked at the time