Refused TD , appeal in process, please help !

You need professional assistance, a lawyer, not a consultant or case worker or anyone other than a qualified Canadian immigration lawyer. I understand, given your financial situation, that looks out of reach.

I understand it is a very difficult situation. My heart aches for you.

There is some chance the H&C argument may be successful. But given the length of time spent outside Canada, that is not an easy one to make. A good lawyer would give you your best chance. Even then, though, well, it looks like a difficult situation.

Your younger daughter can, as a Canadian citizen, return to Canada any time; depending on circumstances, perhaps living with her older sister would be a good idea. But of course that is a very personal decision.

Your older daughter in Canada may be eligible to sponsor you, once you have formally lost PR status (which appears to be the likely outcome here, unless you have good professional assistance making the H&C case in the appeal, and even then, well, it is a difficult case) or if you voluntarily surrender your PR status. But of course she would have to meet the eligibility requirements for that and while I do not know much about the new system for Canadians to sponsor parents, I understand that the financial ability requirements are rather high.

Regarding why you: I could offer some explanation for how and why Canada enforces its immigration laws, or in contrast how and why there are so many instances of others getting away with this or that, but that is not going to help you. And, that would be like trying to explain why a particular individual still has to pay a fine for a speeding ticket she got when there is a steady stream of other cars exceeding the speed limit on the same highway most other days. Only this is a lot more serious than a speeding ticket of course.

Bottom-line, it is not about how good a person you are, or about any higher sense of what is fair or not fair. The law clearly states the residency obligation for Permanent Residents, and that a breach of the obligation renders a PR inadmissible to Canada. Not sure why you did not become a citizen of Canada yourself, between the 1970s and 2004, but that would have been your best insurance against running into a situation like this.

Overall: if there is any way at all for your daughter in Canada to hire, on your behalf, a good, Canadian immigration lawyer, that is what you should do as soon as possible.

A PR does retain many rights pending the outcome of an appeal of the PR TD denial (note: if the appeal is lost or abandoned or withdrawn, PR status is lost), but it is complicated enough that you should turn to and rely on a lawyer's advice, not mine, not anyone in a forum setting like this.

Given the amount of time that has passed since the TD was denied (I am assuming that is what the "Rome" "refused" is in reference to), I would be concerned about the status of the appeal. In any event, it appears time is of the essence. And, indeed, the H&C grounds are probably your best argument (only argument), but again, at this stage of things getting the assistance of qualified legal counsel is the best thing to do. Perhaps by yesterday. At least very, very soon.

I doubt that an error of the sort you say occurred at the POE would have much effect. If you had been in Canada 725 days in the previous five years, maybe it would matter. But, again, this is something to discuss with a lawyer. Isolated facts do not ordinarily control, it is the totality of all the facts, all the circumstances, so a lawyer can go over the whole situation and get a much better idea what matters, what does not, what can be done.